Don’t Ask Me About My Weight

It’s been almost nine months since I had my baby. That’s nine month of enjoying our new life together. Nine months of love, kisses, hugs, and snuggles. Nine months of not dieting. Nine months of just loving my postpartum body.

Often when I meet people that I haven’t seen in a while, one of the first things I get asked is in relation to my baby weight. I started noticing this when I was about two months postpartum. This is what modern society has conditioned us to do. Instead of asking about my baby, her health and development or my health and recovery after birth, people are choosing to ask about my weight.

This picture is of me at 35 weeks pregnant and then at 35 weeks post birth, but I don’t want you to just think of this as a before and after picture. Instead, think of these images as different stages of motherhood. 

On the left is my body while growing a beautiful life inside of me and on the right is my body while still sustaining and providing comfort for this amazing little life after birth. There’s nothing more to it.

I have never been on a diet and I do not plan to ever go on a diet. Don’t ask me about my weight. If you want to ask about my health and wellbeing and how I recovered after giving birth, then that’s a different story. If you are actually concerned about me as a person, not a number, then I’m happy to talk to you about it. But don’t ask me about my weight.

I don’t like diets for many reason. Mainly I don’t like them because so often the reason for dieting is to achieve some illusion of beauty conditioned by society rather than being healthy and happy in your own body. I especially think that after growing life and giving birth, the last thing a woman should be asked about is her weight. It is just simply not a priority.

Having a baby is hard work and too often it seems we don’t give ourself and our body enough credit. Each woman is different, but we are all truly amazing for growing such a beautiful little life inside of us. Some women bounce right back to their pre-baby body while others take more time. I gained almost 70lbs while pregnant, and guess what? I loved every minute of it!

Being pregnant and experiencing this amazing little life growing inside of me has given me a different outlook on life. I now have this whole new appreciation for my own body that would have only happened through this experience. Since giving birth I haven’t given much thought to losing weight or fitting into my old jeans, it just hasn’t seemed like a priority and I don’t even get the whole point of it. Why are we as a society so focused on losing weight after birth when really we should be focused on the only important thing – our new precious little baby. It makes no sense to me. You are beautiful! You are amazing! And you should be loving that new postpartum body of yours because it helped provide a safe home with nourishment and love for all those months. 

So that’s what I have been doing; loving my body! I’m still not back to my previous weight, I don’t know when or if I’ll ever be, and it really doesn’t matter. Don’t ask me about my weight. Don’t ask me if I’m on a diet. All that matters is that my baby is healthy and that I am healthy. That’s all that matters to me and that’s all that should matter to you. The rest is just a number.

XOXO 

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12 thoughts on “Don’t Ask Me About My Weight

  1. I needed this post! I’m 4 months after baby #2 being born and metabolic issues, I’ve yet to drop a pound. It’s a challenge with body and self confidence bc people are so quick to ask the wrong questions. I too have chosen, not to “let myself go”, but to love my baby and try to be healthy and strong for her (and my son).

    So proud you’re a momma with her head on straight!

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  2. Great read!! It drove me crazy when I would run into people after having the baby and they would realize I was no longer pregnant. Next step was to instantly look at my body. Like it gave them some sort of freedom to assess my progress. Drove me crazy. Thanks for the read!

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  3. I wish people would ask questions that actually has true intent for one’s well-being. Great read and I hope it shows people a different perspective, one that actually matters.

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  4. Totally appreciate your post and what you shared. I wrote a post on my pregnancy weight gain with my three kiddos and how I still struggle to get back to my ideal weight. Thanks for writing something so relatable!

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  5. I love this blog post. Although I don’t have any kids, reading this perspective from a mama makes a whole lot of sense. Why DO people ask or mention weight? What’s important is that you and the baby are both healthy. People are weird lol.

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